Why doesn’t the incel ask the people he likes out?
- He is so far removed from society that he will never be able to correctly discern attraction from friendliness, therefore he is forever doomed to put innocent people around him in uncomfortable situations for his own self-satisfaction.
- He is in such a rush to start an intimate relationship that he is hypersensitive to any and all positive affirmations. He is aware of this, and overcompensates by disregarding all signs that anyone could give him as mere delusions.
- People at his age have expectations for what they want out of a relationship, whereas he has none. Who is he to impose his juvenile ideas of love and sex on other people and waste their time?
- He bases the quality of his interactions on how playfully and effortlessly he can converse with another person, like a skilled game of tennis, but that is very one sided when it comes to what the other person would gain out of further interactions. He has yet to meet someone whom he can unequivocally affirm will fare better in life with him by her side as opposed to without him. He assumes that this is a step in the right direction of being less selfish.