The incel has fallen into a rather dangerous train of thought - there’s no point in socializing or talking to women because all the places his friends would take him to do those things automatically equates to women that aren’t worth the effort (hedonists in bars, institutionalized sheep in universities). Don’t get him wrong, they are most likely great to talk to and have value in and of themselves, so they’ll probably find a nice bar Chad or uni cuck to share good times with. At the same time though, if he holds out for when “the getting is better” in some other imagined utopia, he’ll be like a newborn calf trying to navigate the new world of dating. But I guess it isn’t too much of an issue since the women he is aiming for wouldn’t have too much experience either.
It’s a draw. The incel has the bad habit of not doing stuff he’s not 100% emotionally invested in. In most areas of life, like homework or networking, a certain amount of BS is expected, but he would be dishonest by bringing that mentality to a potential relationship with another human being.
One of the only regrets his role models have about their lives is not having retreated from their suboptimal situation sooner and not having aligned their life with their values sooner. Along the same vein, the best the incel can do in the present day is be as unabashedly blunt and true to himself as possible. As long as he doesn’t purposefully disrespect others or the greater good, everything is fair game. He needs to allow myself to make enemies and cut the safe/soft facade. If someone likes what they see, they’re more than welcome to let him know and throw signs his way, but that kind of directness is discouraged in both urban and rural life, so he has no need to come up with a plan B. In any case, he’s such a blockhead, he’ll probably misread the signs and carry on with his life anxiously typing on his keyboard on a lazy Saturday afternoon anyway.
The trad consensus is that by age 25 a good man should have multiple admirers whom he could choose to pursue at any moment. The incel is nowhere near that level, or if he is, he is not aware of them. Well, that’s a lie. He’s halfway there; friends of friends have, at many points, expressed respect for how he comports himself and how he goes about pursuing his hobbies. The “halfway there” comes from the fact that, even if he wanted to, one moved away and the other ones are in happy committed relationships he has no reason to sabotage or wreck. In any case, the magical balancing act is to act in a way that continues to garner admirers without explicitly setting out to do so, and what remains is merely a numbers game.
The answer is the same as ever: Cast a wide net, which in this case, means rejecting both hedonism and asceticism in favor of creating something - anything.” It’s what he looks forward to most on his calendar anyway, and coincidentally enough, they are pastimes he has the most agency over.
And everyone thrives under agency! Restore the power process.