According to conventional wisdom, extraordinary outcomes require extraordinary measures. Makes sense, right? According to the same cultural idiom, doing the same thing and expecting different results is insanity, or just plain irrational. Therefore, the best way for the incel to achieve his life long goal is to be proactive and do things that he wouldn’t have thought to do before.
But wait a minute. Friends tell him that the most important thing about playing the game is not caring about the outcome. A book that his older brother recommended him says that happiness is truly achieved when one isn’t asking themselves said question and looking for happiness in the first place. There’s even this idea of the via negativa - removing parts of your life to stabilize the whole. By this logic, he needs to be passive and if anything, refrain from certain doing things that he would do in the past.
Confusing at first, but actually two sides of the same coin. Of course, if he could just stop wanting in the first place, life would be much easier. Yet, that just might be the purpose of life - getting over ourselves despite our nature. wut do