Potpourri time - list of the incel’s intrusive thoughts when dealing with women:
- What do you want from me - from this transaction?
- What is a safe neutral response to her question?
- Why are you talking to me?
- How long can I keep this act up?
- Don’t talk to me; I’ll start daydreaming about you if you do.
- Why is everybody so cute?
- Have I overstepped my boundaries?
- Did I say something stupid?
- Don’t look at her eyes; she’ll get creeped out.
- Feign as much confidence and self-sufficiency as possible without making eye contact (a steep order).
- What would a normie say?
- Did I look at her face for too long?
- Find a neutral area to look at instead.
- Don’t bust out the self-deprecating humor; only say things that make you look cool.
- Where is my out? Who’s the most alpha chad in the room I can count on to keep the good times rolling and pick up the ball I will inevitably drop?
- Look sociable. Smile to show people you’re having a good time, even if you’re bored. Apparently people freak out if your face is neutral for too long.
- How short can I cut this conversation without being rude?
- What could I possibly want from this person? What’s my alibi if someone asks me why I’m talking to them?
- Am I speaking for too long? Am I giving the other person enough time to speak?
- She’s not into you; she’s that friendly to everyone. You’re not special.
- What direction does she want to steer the conversation? I’ll just follow her lead.
- How much of an asshole can I be and still get away with it?
- What is my body language saying? Should I manspread to exhibit alpha energy, even if my natural reaction is to be as small as possible? Will that come across as fake if I do so?
- Wow, she’s talking a lot; Thank god I don’t have to deal with this on a daily basis.
- What can I say instead of what I’m really feeling to keep the atmosphere casual?
- What a lucky dude.
- Where do you even find women like this?
- Who can I roleplay as to get through this conversation?
- Is there any subtext to her words? Probably not; I can usually take people at face value.
- How much can I pretend to show I care without my fabrication being too obvious? How much even should I pretend to care?
To sum up, the incel needs to be less apologetic and needs to choose his battles wisely - only where he can be himself. It’s not much, but it’s a start. If only he could find a way to not feel unique and different (the myth of uniqueness as his therapist puts it). Nobody is better or worse off for their lifestyle choices, himself included.